Are the ways you’re trying to cope with life stressors feeling unmanageable? Have your coping mechanisms taken on a life of their own and starting to feel out of your control, compulsive, dysfunctional or self-sabotaging? Are you noticing relationship patterns you keep repeating and can’t break? Do you resort to drugs and alcohol and it’s becoming a problem? Are you hoping to find better tools to manage those underlying feelings of anxiety, loneliness or depression? Are you assuming those underlying unmanageable feelings are inherent to you, that you’ll always have to carry them around? Perhaps you are hoping I can help you with more functional ways of dealing and coping with them, taming those unwanted parts that feel out of control...
Many forms of therapy offer just that: new skills and better tools for coping, Band-Aids to cover a wound, a method of being outwardly functional and better “in control” of yourself. Those techniques can be useful, but what if those underlying feeling and symptoms that you work so hard to manage, tame, escape and avoid are not inherent to you? What if we can heal what’s underneath making all those techniques and coping mechanisms unnecessary? How would it feel to be free of the heavy burden you carry?
Often parts of ourselves take on these extreme roles with the intention of protecting us. Whether they are doing it to distract us from pain or to protect vulnerable parts of ourselves inside, their efforts are often well intentioned. If we go about it by rejecting these unwanted parts of ourselves we create more tension inside. Internal Family Systems offers a map to the inner terrain where we can work directly with those parts of ourselves, unburden heavy feelings of guilt or shame and offer new roles to parts that feel stuck compulsively reacting. You don’t have to navigate this alone. There is hope for an inner sense of calm, joy and power.
I specialize in treating people with:
Anxiety and worry
Depression, grief and loss
Trauma and PTSD
Relationship patterns
Family and unresolved childhood issues
Chronic pan and illness
Professional burnout and life transitions.
Spiritual and existential issues
Psychedelic integration
